
I’m pretty sure that the deep nagging fear for everyone in their 20′s is that we will withdraw into a withering personal stagnance that starts in the 30′s and stretches on for the rest of our lives. We see it clearly in the faces of people whove stopped getting epiphanies, simply don’t dance anymore and outright refuse to change their ideas even in the face of ample evidence to the contrary. They are the people who have stopped examining because whatever shimmering ball of vibrance enchanted them as youth has faded under the responsibilities of advanced adulthood and (in some cases childrearing). They are the people doing the exact same goddamn thing that they were doing 10 years ago. We’ve all looked at that and said “sweet fucking christ, i hope that doesn’t happen to me.”
Here’s a couple things (of many) that I’m hoping will prevent such sanity
1. However great, you can’t rest on your past achievements. If you’re getting older, smarter, more wise…you have to do something better, bigger, more complicated. {Sorry, kids don’t count, true they are hard and complex but you have to do something else too}.
{ps tibor kalman said “Your children will smash your understanding, knowledge and reality. You will be better off. Then they will move away and You’ll miss them forever. ”
2. Challenges are good, if it doesn’t hurt or is at least a little bit uncomfortable, you’re not growing.
3. The future doesn’t count until it happens. Despite being kindof a racist douchebag Henry Ford said it best:
You cannot build a reputation on what you are going to do
4. You have to surround yourself with awesome friends that challenge the fuck out of you. by definition we don’t hold ideas that we consciously recognize as inaccurate or wrong but they are in there, lurking. Don’t be a dick when they get rooted out and smashed like the little bastards that they are. remember, you are better off without them anyway and you prolly owe a big thanks to the person who revealed them.
:::: Photo via Jeremy.Plemon ::::