Yesterday a friend asked me for advice about a dating situation. I was a late bloomer and it took me several years of trial and error to figure these things out so I’m hoping this is useful to someone somewhere. Maybe to my Moroccans!?!?
a. Don’t go on dates! Just chill with friends and meet new people.
b. Talk on the phone first
c. Always at a place close to your house
d. Hard stop
(a. Dating means all sorts of weird expectations and hang ups. Reframe the situation entirely: lets kick it as friends and see what happens. )
(b. Test for vibe via the telephone. 1. it can be spontaneous and requires less planning. 2. if there is no connection you don’t have to commute all over the place. 3. It’s very easy to exit a phone call in case of epic fail.)
(c. Know of an awesome cafe…near your house. Again, in the event of epic fail there is no reason to be traveling all over.)
(d. Establish a hard stop in the event of total awkwardness.)